Three Women

Three Women

Book - 2019
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Desire as we've never seen it before: a riveting true story about the sex lives of three real American women, based on nearly a decade of reporting. It thrills us and torments us. It controls our thoughts, destroys our lives, and it's all we live for. Yet we almost never speak of it. And as a buried force in our lives, desire remains largely unexplored--until now. Over the past eight years, journalist Lisa Taddeo has driven across the country six times to embed herself with ordinary women from different regions and backgrounds. The result, Three Women, is the deepest nonfiction portrait of desire ever written and one of the most anticipated books of the year. We begin in suburban Indiana with Lina, a homemaker and mother of two whose marriage, after a decade, has lost its passion. She passes her days cooking and cleaning for a man who refuses to kiss her on the mouth, protesting that "the sensation offends" him. To Lina's horror, even her marriage counselor says her husband's position is valid. Starved for affection, Lina battles daily panic attacks. When she reconnects with an old flame through social media, she embarks on an affair that quickly becomes all-consuming. In North Dakota we meet Maggie, a seventeen-year-old high school student who finds a confidant in her handsome, married English teacher. By Maggie's account, supportive nightly texts and phone calls evolve into a clandestine physical relationship, with plans to skip school on her eighteenth birthday and make love all day; instead, he breaks up with her on the morning he turns thirty. A few years later, Maggie has no degree, no career, and no dreams to live for. When she learns that this man has been named North Dakota's Teacher of the Year, she steps forward with her story--and is met with disbelief by former schoolmates and the jury that hears her case. The trial will turn their quiet community upside down. Finally, in an exclusive enclave of the Northeast, we meet Sloane--a gorgeous, successful, and refined restaurant owner--who is happily married to a man who likes to watch her have sex with other men and women. He picks out partners for her alone or for a threesome, and she ensures that everyone's needs are satisfied. For years, Sloane has been asking herself where her husband's desire ends and hers begins. One day, they invite a new man into their bed--but he brings a secret with him that will finally force Sloane to confront the uneven power dynamics that fuel their lifestyle. Based on years of immersive reporting, and told with astonishing frankness and immediacy, Three Women is a groundbreaking portrait of erotic longing in today's America, exposing the fragility, complexity, and inequality of female desire with unprecedented depth and emotional power. It is both a feat of journalism and a triumph of storytelling, brimming with nuance and empathy, that introduces us to three unforgettable women--and one remarkable writer--whose experiences remind us that we are not alone.
Publisher: New York :, Avid Reader Press, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc.,, 2019
Edition: First Avid Reader Press hardcover edition
ISBN: 9781451642292
Characteristics: x, 306 pages ; 25 cm


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Feb 08, 2020

absolute trash!!!!!!!!!!!

Jan 21, 2020

I feel unresolved.
Often when reading stories of others, I do so to seek a better understanding of myself and feel the reflection of my pain in others in a way that it can be subconsciously processed. Since this book is not a work of fiction and is instead stories of women who are still alive, I find their stories still echoing in my system... unresolved much like my own stories and traumas. Will they be okay? Likely... do I know that for sure. Definitely not. My care is still reaching out to them and likely still will until the thread frays, dangling in the wind.
I wish there were more resolution in the ending somehow, some way the author wrapped it up in such a way that tied up my threads in a bow and leaves them with the closing of the book. I also did not appreciate the chapter mechanism, splitting the stories into pieces read in turn. This made it more difficult for me to dive into one story. Instead, I had to hold several intense peaks at once until they were resolved. I just wanted to finish one story, and by the time i realized that, i was too far into the book and the chapters too split up that i didn't feel i could make that happen for myself. I was simply along for three emotional rollercoaster rides at once.

Jan 10, 2020

Stopped reading this. Didn’t get any sense of agency from the author’s descriptions of these women. Found their stories to be too sad.

FPL_LaurenG Dec 30, 2019

Although I don't fully agree with the author's thesis, the eAudiobook is a compelling listen. The nuggets of relatability buried within each character will hook you.

Dec 27, 2019

I loved this book! Couldn't put it down and read it in 2 days.

Dec 11, 2019

This book left me confused and I'm not sure what all the fuss is about. Although it was an easy read I feel like any message was lost with the graphic telling of the sex, sorry but I wouldn't recommend it.

I read this book in just a few days. The women were so complex and fascinating. My heart broke with theirs -- that longing for a connection and how different desire is for men and women.

Dec 03, 2019

Somewhat interesting to know other people's private problems but no need to jump back and forth. Just tell each story in order since there is no connection.
Would have been interesting to know the results of the second trial for one of the stories or
if any other women came forward.

Nov 30, 2019

"Sloan was not completely sure he was into only her, that he wanted only her in the world. After all, she wondered, could anyone really feel that way about someone else."

"Sloan didn't want or need a man in that way. But she did want more from life than what it seemed one person could give her."

Ok so I avoided this book through the hype over summer, I really wanted to read it but I have been dissapointed before over overly hyped books.

So on the one hand I found this compulsively readable, hard to put down and when I did I was eager to get back to it. Taddeo's writing is good. Very journalistic and thorough. As for the three women's stories highlighted in this book I only related to the one and only a very small amount. Their stories are very intimate and at times graphic, all heartbreaking and overall very sad.

This book is marketed as a book about female desire. The main takaway for me was that these three women's desires were consistently squashed and swept under the rug. And overall society does this to women and our desires on the regular. That our voices and wants are not heard.
I also wished that Taddeo had put more of herself in these pages. Her story was intriguing but it was too brief for me. And I wish there was more diversity in the women she chose to highlight too.

Overall well written and readable but sad and I don't feel like I learned anything new about human desire, female or male.

ArapahoeKati Nov 25, 2019

I'm not sure what I expected but overall I had mixed feelings. A lot of intimate, personal stories, not as much research into female desire.

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Oct 02, 2019

We don’t remember what we want to remember. We remember what we can’t forget.

Aug 06, 2019

Being developed for Showtime


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